Peace & Safety Workshop
Thursdays, September 20–October 25
7–8:30pm
Anger Management Class is a 6-week class sponsored by the North Heights Counseling Clinic. Emotional Healing for Anger & Abuse, facilitated by Jacquie Skog, M.A. Next class begins in September 2012. Check back soon for dates.
Facts About Anger
- The emotion of anger gives one a feeling of power that can compensate for underlying feelings of fear and anxiety.
- When a person experiences a situation in which they feel emotional pain and perceives that their needs for dignity and respect remain unmet, anger often occurs.
- Any anxiety-producing situation has the potential for evoking anger and aggression.
- Often, people who live without the knowledge of their God-given value and worth have misbeliefs about themselves that limit their capacity to manage feelings of frustration that lead to anger and produce harmful behaviors.
- The conflict between misbeliefs about the self and God-given value and worth can be a source of anger.
- The loss of compassion for the self and others is a factor in anger that can become abusive and violent.
- Anger can be a vehicle for new understanding, renewed life purpose, and emotional healing.
Tips for Managing Anger, Conflict, and Emotional Tension
- Understand the hurts that are underneath the negative feelings.
- Validate the hurt by feeling it briefly to identify mistaken beliefs causing the negative feelings.
- Stop engaging in power struggles and blaming others for your negative feelings.
- Take personal responsibility for your feelings and your part of the conflict.
- Look inside yourself to name painful emotions and mistaken beliefs.
- Learn to listen to the truth of your innate, God-given, value and worth.
- Choose to believe in your innate worth, feel it and practice behaviors that demonstrate self-respect and respect for others.
- Restore relationships with compassion for the hurt and pain that brought about conflict.
- Practice listening to the feelings of others to gain an awareness of their perspective which may be different than yours.
- Develop understanding for the hurt and negative feelings in others.
- Support others while they change. Help them to reconnect with their innate, God-given, value and worth.
- Forgive yourself and others for the hurt and pain of the past, based on God's forgiveness in Christ's work on the cross.
- Forgiveness does not mean condoning or excusing bad or abusive behaviors in others. Forgiveness means only that you give up your desire to reject or punish those who have hurt you.
- Restore relationships by learning how to maintain self-control by self-soothing negative emotions and apply compassion to the self and others.
- Rebuild your dreams for developing to your full potential by eliminating barriers to emotional, mental, spiritual, and physical wellness.