Grieving a pregnancy loss? Feeling alone? Women who have been there offer understanding, love, resources, prayer, and information. Individual and group support is available on an as-needed basis.
The Pregnancy Loss Support is for anyone who has lost a child during pregnancy or soon after, whether it was recently or years ago. You do not need to be a member of North Heights to attend this group. We also provide information for friends and family of the grieving parents. It gives ideas on how to help them through this time and encouraging words that may also be helpful.
Our Purpose
- To provide a nurturing, supportive group for women and men who have experienced a pregnancy loss
- To give them unconditional love, acceptance, understanding, guidance, and strength
- To provide resources to help deal with their grief
- To provide information to help strengthen their relationship with God and with each other
- To provide medical information to help them understand the physical processes that their bodies may be going through
- To remember their lost children
Testimonies
Traci Payne Testimony
December 24, 1999, Christmas Eve, was one of the most traumatic days of my life. I miscarried our son.
In the days and weeks following, I felt empty and alone in our loss. I felt that it was my fault. I felt guilty, and angry, and responsible. I wished for someone to understand, to know what it felt like to go through this lose-a-child, there-one-day, gone-the-next ordeal.
But God was using this situation to his good. He gave me two friends who had both been through this and they did understand what I was facing. They helped me in ways I could never repay, just by understanding and listening to me. Their friendship was the healing touch I was needing and helped me to release the guilt and realize that it was not my fault.
Now, as co-leader of this group, some of the stories other women have told us break my heart and confirm that there is a need for this ministry. Everyone deserves to have their pregnancies acknowledged, no matter how short they were. I thank God for giving me the desire to share and help, and I thank him for the healing that he is doing in my life and the lives of the other women.
Nothing can replace my son, Paul, but I know God is holding him close until I can hug him in heaven. He'll always be a part of my life and my heart. I think of him often and give thanks for the short time I had him with me.
Sara Tollefson Testimony
We had only known that we were pregnant for a short time, but already that child had become a part of our lives. Then, I lost our first child to a miscarriage at six weeks. We were devastated.
My doctor's office gave me no information about what to expect, physically or emotionally. I had no idea of the emotions I was about to encounter. I felt I didn't even know how to grieve.
Had it not been for my family and friends, I would not have know how to handle this loss. Even with them, I still felt alone. I felt like people didn't understand. They would tell me that I was young, I had plenty of time to try again. Or that it was for the best. None of those things helped-they hurt. I wanted someone to say "I'm sorry that you lost your child, I'm sorry that you're in pain. Would you like to cry on my shoulder or talk about this child?"
When I found a group on the internet for women who had miscarried, I felt like I had found people who knew exactly how I felt.
We lost Lily over 2 years ago. At some point, the pain in remembering her turned to joy and now I rejoice for the time that I had with her and the time I will have with her in heaven. Being able to come together with women who have lost a child is a blessing to me. God has turned my sadness into joy.
Psalm 121
I lift my eyes to the hills-
Where does my help come from?
My help comes from the Lord,
the maker of heaven and earth.
He will not let your foot slip,
He who watches over you will not slumber
Indeed, He who watched over you will
neither slumber nor sleep.
The Lord watches over you-
the Lord is your shade at your right hand;
the sun will not harm you by day,
nor the moon by night.
The Lord will keep you from all harm-
He will watch over your life;
the Lord will watch over your
coming and going,
both now and forevermore.
Romans 8:28
And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him who have been called according to his purpose.